Monthly Archives: March 2011

Food glorious food


I’ve been trying a few new things in the last few weeks…

Beetroot rice

Recipe here. I used pre-cooked beetroots and added paneer cheese to the recipe. Spicy and tasty.

Aubergine curry

I often seem to photograph more steam than anything else! This aubergine curry was really good, the pictures at the recipe site do it much more justice. I put chicken in it.

Aubergine curry again

And it was so good I made it again. Without chicken and with an excessive amount of spring onions. I also used 3 green chillies for some insane reason so it nearly blew my head off. It’s just as well no-one else is eating with me! 😆

Veg curry with coconut

Looks nothing like the original as I did not even remotely respect quantities. 😆 Was really good anyway.

Mutton shank with butter beans

I first did this recipe years ago. I got an organic mutton shank at a market and decided to dig the recipe out again. The meat was lovely, even if it seemed to shrink as it cooked!! It is definitely a weekend recipe as it involves a long cooking time. The other thing is baked polenta with feta cheese and rosemary. Yes it looks kinda weird. Presentation is definitely not my forte.


I can’t claim credit for these heart-shaped pancakes – someone else brought them to the Unitarian group I attend once a month as it happened to fall on pancake day. With cream, jam and strawberries. Lovely!

Chicken pasanda

I was very pleased with this recipe. It will be obvious by now that I love curries, but I usually find it hard to make good curries at home. This and the aubergine one gave me great results. I used single cream instead of yogurt, I was too afraid of the yogurt curdling as always seems to happen. Next time I might do half yogurt and half cream.

Spinach and feta borek

Recipe here. The yogurt, olive oil and egg mixture to spread on the pastry sheets was new to me, but the result was very tasty.


Introverts are powerful


Introverts attract validation junkies. I say this not primarily as an introvert, but as a validation junkie. 😀

Introverts typically are seen as very intriguing, and their quiet thoughtful depth can make their approval or interest in you feel very validating indeed.

People who, in just a few devastating words, can cut incisively to the core of an issue with a staggering clarity, seem to garner an especially high level of respect and deference. They are economical with words but when they chime in, people listen. These are the people that have most often triggered my insecure need of validation. I have put them on a pedestal and performed a merry dance for the scraps of attention I craved that they occasionally deigned to throw at me. Yes, they are very powerful!

I think once or twice I may even have held a similar position for other validation junkies, people less introverted than me. But I did not get that at the time. I felt bewildered by the attention, and if the person was trying to impress me, they overshot massively. Because of course there is something powerful and dominating about extroversion, too. I often feel powerless around extreme extroverts, to the extent that I’m even sometimes tempted to think my quietness is taken advantage of by them. So it doesn’t tend to occur to me that they might also feel powerless around me.

If you need validation, you are likely to look for it from an introvert, but unlikely to ever really feel validated for very long. They are too cool. They don’t gush, and in most of these situations they probably haven’t got the slightest idea that you even need anything from them.

I think very many of us don’t recognise how powerful we are!